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Table Talk

(posted by Jeanne on 8-18-2011)

Table Talk
It’s important that meal times be peaceful and a time of refuge. For this reason I discourage parents from bringing up difficult topics or criticizing one another at the table. This is no time to bring up Read more »

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Voice vs Vote: Who’s in charge?

(posted by Jeanne on 7-21-2011)

Voice vs Vote
A helpful way to enforce parental leadership is to give your child a “Voice but not a vote,” regarding family matters. A voice is her birthright, whereas, a vote is something earned. Read more »

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Get Out of Jail Free Cards

(posted by Jeanne on 1-25-2011)

Get Out of Jail Free Cards
As parents we only get a few passes to go into our child’s school with concerns and complaints while maintaining credibility. I think of these opportunities as ‘Get Out of Jail Free Cards’  to be used with discretion. Before we use one, Read more »

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Engraved Invitation

(posted by Jeanne on 9-21-2010)

Engraved Invitation
To over-function is the equivilent of sending out an engraved invitation for others to under-function and vice-versa. This relationship reality is important to keep in mind in all relationships, including parenting, as we work to empower rather than enable. To look at a relationship in terms of Read more »

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Boundaries Rule!

(posted by Jeanne on 9-14-2010)

Boundaries Rule
Our boundaries define how others will treat us. When we stand our ground, we are true to ourselves. We honor and regard ourselves and lead the way for others to do the same. Firm and well-communicated Read more »

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