Our boundaries define how others will treat us. When we stand our ground, we are true to ourselves. We honor and regard ourselves and lead the way for others to do the same. Firm and well-communicated boundaries help others to know how we expect to be treated. When we stand our ground and assert our boundaries, others are less likely to pursue us with aggressive and coercive behavior. They get the message that their net is no match for our wings.
I’m reminded of the children’s game, “Rock, Paper, Scissors Shoot.” Each player calls out their choice on the count of three and extends a closed fist (rock), open palm (paper) or scissor sign (scissors). Rock beats scissor but paper beats rock. I can assure you that in boundary situations, wings beat net and boundaries rule! It’s important to keep in mind that respect from others begins with respect for self.